Telling Family and Significant Others After Sexual Assault

When considering whether to tell family and others who are close, anticipating their possible reactions is helpful. Review past and current relationships and history of support. Responses may vary widely from support and understanding to rejection and accusation. These responses may come from the same person over a period of time.

If family or significant others are not told, the victim may experience feelings of isolation and guilt over keeping this a secret. Family may find out from another source at a later date. It is also important to note that not sharing may be denying a major source of support. On the other hand, if there is reason to think that a friend or family member might react in a hurtful, nonsupportive way, it may be in the victims best interests to not share information about the assault.

Your family, friends, roommates, or other significant people may have a difficult time understanding your feelings. They may suggest that you speak with a counselor. They themselves may consider speaking with a counselor on how to understand and assist you or obtain support for their own feelings. The counseling center can provide you with a list of resources to aid you in dealing with this trauma.